8 Unbreakable Rules For Dating a Mexican Woman

Dating Mexican Women: 8 Secrets to Successfully Dating a Mexican Woman! 😍😘

We all know Mexican women are pretty y es difícil no enamorarse de nosotras (and it’s hard not to fall in love with us). But dating a Mexican woman also comes with certain… expectations and obligations. And trust me, you don’t want to get on our wrong side!

It’s not as scary as it might seem, though! So, in this article I’m actually going to reveal eight secrets for your relationship with that Mexican sweetie to be just perfect. 

Secrets to a successful relationship

So, what’s the deal with Mexican women? There’s obviously no bulletproof recipe to having a successful relationship with a Mexican woman, but the secrets I’ll share with you will allow you to overcome potential bumps on the road.

Secret 1: Chivalry is still expected

Las mexicanas sueñan con un caballero. (Mexican women dream about dating a gentleman.) So, be one!

What does that mean? Well, at least, this:

  1. Recógela y llévala de vuelta a casa. (Pick her up and take her back home.)

I’ve heard that, in other countries, couples just meet directly at the movie theater or the restaurant. In Mexico, however, women find it romantic that you pick them up at their place, especially towards the beginning of the relationship.

Additionally, once your date is over, you should drive her back to her place. This will show your Mexican darling that you truly care about her.

Quick tip: Back in the day, women were randomly kidnapped on the streets by horsemen. As a result, men are expected to walk close to the road, while women should walk next to the buildings. Otherwise, people will say “la está vendiendo” (she’s on sale). 

  1. Paga la cuenta del restaurante o los boletos del cine siempre que puedas. (Pay for dinner or for the tickets to the movie whenever you can.)

Every couple will obviously reach its own agreements, but towards the beginning, most Mexican women expect you to pay for dinner, for the tickets to the movie, or for whatever activity you guys are doing together.

  1. Ábrele la puerta. (Open the door for her.)

No importa qué puerta sea (it doesn’t matter which door it is), the point is that you open it for her, either before she gets off the car (or the Uber), before she goes into the restaurant, before she enters her house or your apartment.  

Secret 2: Details are key

Las mujeres mexicanas adoramos los detalles… y las sorpresas. (Mexican women love details… and surprises.) You should not wait until Christmas or Valentine’s Day to send us flowers.

Similarly, no esperes a nuestro cumpleaños para llevarnos serenata (Don’t wait until our birthday to deliver a serenata.)

Secret 3: Decoding implicit meanings

Sometimes, Mexican women mean “yes” when they say “no” and vice versa. This is especially true when they are upset.

Si notas que está molesta (if you feel like she’s upset) and ask, ¿estás enojada? (are you angry?). Chances are she’ll respond “no”… and then she’ll turn away or barely talk to you. In other words, she’ll show you that she is, indeed, upset.

Similarly, she might mention something like: “el novio de mi amiga le mandó flores al trabajo” (my friend got flowers from her boyfriend at work). In this case, she’s not only telling you something that happened, she’s also implicitly asking you to send her flowers as well.

No te preocupes (don’t worry!), you’ll master the art of decoding implicit meanings, especially in terms of time… You’ll notice that most Mexican women take quite long in getting ready. So, if you have booked a restaurant at 8, you better tell her the reservation is at 7.

Secret 4: Showing emotions 

En México, la gente es apasionada. (Mexican people are passionate.) Therefore, your Mexican sweetie will show her emotions constantly: te va a dar besos, a abrazar y a acariciar (she will kiss you, hug you, and caress you) even in public.

More importantly, she will expect some feedback or response. So, kiss her back, hug her and caress her as well. If you don’t, you might send her the wrong message.

Secret 5: Taboos

La religión siempre ha tenido mucha importancia en México. (Religion has always been a huge thing in Mexico.) Therefore, sex and all that’s related to it are still, in most cases, un tabú (a taboo).

Consequently, if your Mexican girlfriend is still living with her parents, don’t expect to sleep in the same room with her. That’s a no go… por lo menos en la mayoría de las familias (in most families at least). Things are gradually changing, but in general, that’s how they work.

Similarly, if you have planned a trip together, don’t be surprised if your girlfriend lies to her parents about who she’s going with on that trip.

Secret 6: Meeting your in-laws

La familia es importante en México. (Family is very important in Mexico.) Therefore, her family will be around a lot. 

In some cases, sobre todo en provincia (especially in cities other than the capital city), you might have to ask for permission from the girl’s parents to date her OR they might make comments about you or the relationship itself.

Your in-laws will either love you or hate you. Su papá quizás te odie de por vida (her dad might hate you for life), but once you have gained their trust, they will be very nice to you. 

Algunas suegras (some mothers-in-law) tend to show their love to their daughter’s partner by serving them more food… even though they might be stuffed already. So, be prepared to gain some weight!

Secret 7: Food

Speaking of food, te darás cuenta (you will realize) that your Mexican darling will be frequently indecisive as to which restaurant to visit or what to have for breakfast, lunch, or dinner.

You will probably find yourself giving her a lot of options. In most cases, she will say, “lo que tú quieras” (whatever you want) or “tú escoge” (you choose). Be careful, though!

This secret is somewhat related to secret number 3 (Decoding implicit meanings) because you basically have to learn her likes and dislikes. When she says, lo que tú quieras or tú escoge, she probably means “let’s go to my favorite restaurant” or “let’s order my favorite dish”. 

And these dishes can be quite weird. Want to find out what kind of weird food Mexicans eat? Check out Paulisimas piece about 5 popular and weird Mexican dishes.

In addition to that, tu chica mexicana probará tu comida (your Mexican girl will try your food). Before you know it, her fork will be meddling in your plate.

Secret 8: Be faithful  

When Mexican women start a relationship, se comprometen (they commit to it) and they expect you to do so as well.

Si no quieres romperle el corazón (if you don’t want to break her heart), refrain from talking to your ex and be careful with other girl friends.

Mexican women tend to be territorial and jealous. Para evitar el drama (to avoid drama), just be honest with her.

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Alright! Espero que esta información te sea útil (I hope this information is useful). 

If you are already dating a Mexican woman, tell me in the comments below if I missed anything. If you are thinking about dating a Mexican woman, which secret did you find more interesting… or frightening… or challenging?

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  1. Would love to find a beautiful Mexican woman who would enjoy being a life partner and wants better. Someone who just can’t have better no matter how hard she try’s.

  2. One thing mi novia Mexicana has is a lot of friends and to get together with them. I sometimes feel as though her friends are more important than being with me or I’m on equal footing con sus amigas. When I told her I wanted to live in Quintama Roo she became a bit distant bc she lives in Mazatlan and I know she doesn’t have friends on the cancun side. I am not in a rush to get married but I do want to see how we would live together. I am open to living in Sinaloa for half a year but I prefer cancun and I have bought a house there. Any suggestions to help me assist her in adjusting or should I just let her come and go as she pleases. No quiero un novio tiempo parcial!

  3. I’d say something I found most challenging and different from my culture is the involvement of family. She sees them daily, multiple times a day, and they have get togethers on top of that. And she’ll always put her family first, so if I want to spend time with her, I have to spend time with her family. Everyone just drops in as they please-no invitation required, and like you said…you better eat while you’re there, or else…
    We do have alone time but after 9 months together, I see that if I do marry this girl, I really am marrying her family too

  4. Im am currently dating a mexican woman, has been going on for 5 months and she has to be the love of my life…🥰

    1. Because your relationship has changed. You’ve probably crossed a hidden line and now you’re seen as um, difficult…

  5. I am one confused american man. A beautiful Mexican lady approached me at the gym asking my name. I did not think women took the initiative in Mexican culture. Should I follow up?

    1. Bro! They’re not clones, and are as individual as any other women. I hope you have followed up by now, because otherwise you probably missed your chance

    2. You betcha, Jim. I was recently “picked up” by a middle aged señora. She is very sweet, caring and loving. It was a shipboard “romance” aboard the Baja Ferry to Mazatlán. No, she was no “Working Girl.” She was looking for companionship. Hell, I am 88! The is a grandmother, 48 years old, a widow. We had a brief, very intense “encounter.” I won’t bore you, but take the signal. If she isn’t a Pro, “Vale La Pena.”

  6. Very well done, but it seems different now. They all have kids, seem to ignore white guys, not seem to be hard workers, dress bad, and more. I want a real woman, lady, some my mother would be proud of

  7. I am dating a lady named Guille from Mexico. IS it normal for her to not call or text very little. I do not want to co.e on to strong but we have slept and been together a month and it seems I am the aggressor. Could you give me some help. Yes I am a 51 white man with 2 teenage kids and she is 51 with a teenage kid. I can see myself withe her forever. How to I take the relationship to the next level

    1. Hello ded, im Mex/Ame and I thought my Spanish was ok hell I can’t understand every other word, her culture is way different, we are ingaged, and it Sims like we are just starting, she doesn’t like kissing or hugging in public, no holding hands. One day we are doing great the next day is like we just met, she was talking to a guy on front of me, and her son in law told her, that we American s don’t like that right.

  8. I dated a Mexican woman for 5 years, and now we are happily engaged. Getting married next year! I have been treated so well, and loved. I do the same thing in return, its been a dream come true, to have found my soulmate. Treat them the way they deserve, and they will do the same I promise. Be a gentleman at all times. Be prepared to gain some weight as well, as mexican cuisine is delicious!!!!

  9. Everything you’ve said is completely true. I’ve been dating a beautiful Mexican woman for a couple months and it’s been nothing less than incredibly intense and also nerve wracking. She has a very large family and I’ve had to meet a lot of them. I understand less Spanish than I speak, so I can talk to them (a little) but I can’t understand what they’re saying most of the time due to my limited vocabulary. I worked with her mother a long time before we ever met. I love her mother, she has such a heart warming smile y Mi hermosa novia tiene esa misma sonrisa. 😍 (don’t make that creepy) 🤣 You’re definitely right about Mexican women being passionate. I’ve never felt so…incredibly loved. She sings to me and my heart just melts. She tells me I must have been Mexican in a past life because of my love of all things Mexican. (I’m a tall skinny super white guy). When we go places we get all the looks too because I’m 6’4” and she is 5’3”. But I definitely love our alto y chapparita relationship. We go to a lot of Spanish places and people look at me funny when I speak Spanish to them…it’s probably because I speak slow and they think I’m special 😂 I came to tell you thanks for the info and ended up leaving a short story lol. I was actually trying to find info about if a Mexican woman can cohabitate prior to being married, but I can’t find anything. If you ever read my story and happen to know the answer, I would love to know it. Thanks again.

  10. Thank you for your helpful video.
    Dating a Mexican woman sounds like a lot of work.
    I’m glad I haven’t started that relationship.

  11. She left me because she says I ask too much money.
    I really love her it’s just because of my situation.
    What would I do
    She is now in Georgia

  12. my Mexican man and I have been together for 7 years we now live together for almost two years. these past 6 months he’s gone from calling me his wife to his woman and seems so distant. he used to tell me he loves me now he says love ya. I’m confused and hurt when I ask what I did he said you did nothing wrong. any advice??

  13. You’re so on point, this is my first time really dating a Mexican woman. We have a language barrier. I speak Spanish poorly, and she doesn’t speak English at all. It’s a connection that really can’t be explained. It’s like we’re talking when we aren’t saying anything. We actually went out to a movie. I wanted her to enjoy herself, so I got a app that syncs with the movie. We watched the new top gun. When she ordered her concession food, she ordered a sprite. It was horrible in taste. So one day at lunch I bought her a bottled sprite and gave it to her, then headed off to class. She said nice attention to detail in a text. I’m going to buy us some translation earbuds. Hopefully that will help bridge the gap.

  14. I know what you mean. I had a Mexican woman saw me checking her out. And she looked up at me and hi popii caught me by surprise. The problem was she didn’t really speak English. She was working in a deli in rock ville center and I lived in Calverton I’m a union plumber and that’s were the project was. Now regret not giving it a try. So life is short just go for it. She approached you so she is definitely interested. Stop thinking and act. Good luck

  15. I was laughing at some of your explanations. I’m 60 and she’s 56 and we both look and feel young. She is everything you described and more. I’ve had 2 dates and I’m in in trouble in a very good way. We went to a nice seafood restaurant (found out her favorite) and she was trying my food and vice versa. I’m still smiling 😊. Can’t wipe smile of my face

  16. Most of these are signs of emotional immaturity. In my experience (as a kind, faithful, loyal ‘normal’ man who has never been on the receiving end of a breakup and has had 3 4+-year relationships) in dating 2 Mexican woman is that they exhibit very closeted communication skills – unless they want something – and equality is not in their vocabulary. I’ve lived in Mexico for 4 years and every ‘gringo’ has had the same experience. And I haven’t touched on the jealousy. My British friend (was a young virgin when he met his Mexican gf) was TOLD by his Mexican gf that he is not allowed to say the names of any female friends.
    I was asked why I smiled when we ran into a friend from Canada (in Mexico) that I hadn’t seen since high school.
    First had experience is that this article skips entirely over the epidemic of Latina insecurity and jealousy issues which are rampant in relationships with non-Latinos. Sure, the machismo culture likely creates a culture of fear within women but every Latina/Non-Latino relationship I’ve known (again, lived here 4 years) has been rife with the most raw jealousy I’ve ever seen. Funny how that isn’t mentioned.

  17. serenata.
    at the end of number two you mentioned it.
    I haven’t looked it up yet but I’m pretty sure it means a song.

  18. I’m a white man and I’m 70 years old and I’m going out with a beautiful young mexican woman who is 26 years younger than me and I’m not sure what to expect this is our first date we are going out to eat and when we’re done we’re going to a dance. She said that the age gap doesn’t make any difference to her but I’m still not sure what will happen we live in Texas and when we are done I plan on taking her home. I’m a gentleman and I will treat her with respect her English isn’t real good and my Spanish isn’t real good but she told me she didn’t want me to look at other women. That’s not a problem she is so pretty. Is a big age gap ok. In the US. Ernie

  19. I am 61 year old man who met a beautiful Mexican woman yesterday. We met to discuss her teaching me how to cook basic Mexican meals, as I have decided to move here. She has invited me to her home tonight, to presumably allow me to taste different dishes. We spent an hour and a half talking about many things other than food. She had a friend (chaperone) with her, which was fine. I forgot she was there most of the time. I absolutely felt my heart thump and was completely taken with this woman. I am very traditional, and very much enjoy chivalry. I don’t want to mess this up.

  20. I am 94 years old and have been married 68 years to a pretty girl from mexico city. We had a 2 year courtship with chaperones. She was 18 and I was 26 when we married. Her previous novio showered her with gifts and he even had mariachis play under her window. I was embarrassed when I read that I should have sent flowers to columbia records where she worked. Living on a military stipend at mexico city college I didn’t have a lot of cash for fancy restaurants. I was more of a moucher novio than the traditional giver. I had a nice car that made up for a lot of flowers that I neglected to buy, we made a weekend trip with her parents and other trips with her siblings. In a zapotec village in oaxaca where I did my study for my masters in anthropolgy I was called don rogelio. By the way, sofias first novio became a bullfighter and the top toro announcer in mexico. She married a lowly high school teacher. Rodger l. Meyer st. Croix falls, wis.

  21. My hairdresser speaks only Spanish and I am a Native American half German pretty much white with a tan I’m 30 years old I look a lot younger than my age I’m in the best shape of my life but for the last 3 years my hairdresser which is beautiful is from Monterey she’s I think right at 40 years old so she’s got a good bit of time on me but I’m definitely into somebody who’s a lot more mature I don’t know how to go about asking her if she already has a relationship I need to see if she has a ring on her finger but for some reason I don’t think there was one there if that’s the case and my spanish-speaking skills are somewhat okay she’s also extended her personal phone number that I’ve had for several years in order to get a hold of her to schedule my haircuts we have fun and I use translator to kind of help fill the gaps.
    But I’ve never made a move and I’m at a point in my life for dang this person is amazing and I just want to know what would be the most respectful way to go about her situation in terms of like is she with somebody like should I just straight up ask like we’ve hung out like at the salon you know and they’ll watch soccer games and stuff and would drink kick back and drink beers but I don’t know she’s definitely amazing.

    1. **I don’t want to mess it up.
      any advice would be great!
      I hate tinder lol

  22. I’m a 60-year-old gringo and she is 52. Been dating more than two years and it has been amazing. Both divorced with grown kids. Very true about allegiance to family. I made the mistake three months in of sleeping in the same room with her at one of her parents’ houses. Nothing was said at the time, but her father held it against me. Still recovering. Definitely recommend Latinas. Many of them are incredible women.

  23. i live with my mexican girlfriend in mexico she likes to stay home and cooks and cleans and nakes sure i eat well and my clouse are clean ,i pay most of the bills do she has no worries and she takes good care of me at home,

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