We all know Mexican women are pretty y es difícil no enamorarse de nosotras (and it’s hard not to fall in love with us). But dating a Mexican woman also comes with certain… expectations and obligations. And trust me, you don’t want to get on our wrong side!
It’s not as scary as it might seem, though! So, in this article I’m actually going to reveal eight secrets for your relationship with that Mexican sweetie to be just perfect.
Secrets to a successful relationship
So, what’s the deal with Mexican women? There’s obviously no bulletproof recipe to having a successful relationship with a Mexican woman, but the secrets I’ll share with you will allow you to overcome potential bumps on the road.
Secret 1: Chivalry is still expected
Las mexicanas sueñan con un caballero. (Mexican women dream about dating a gentleman.) So, be one!
What does that mean? Well, at least, this:
- Recógela y llévala de vuelta a casa. (Pick her up and take her back home.)
I’ve heard that, in other countries, couples just meet directly at the movie theater or the restaurant. In Mexico, however, women find it romantic that you pick them up at their place, especially towards the beginning of the relationship.
Additionally, once your date is over, you should drive her back to her place. This will show your Mexican darling that you truly care about her.
Quick tip: Back in the day, women were randomly kidnapped on the streets by horsemen. As a result, men are expected to walk close to the road, while women should walk next to the buildings. Otherwise, people will say “la está vendiendo” (she’s on sale).
- Paga la cuenta del restaurante o los boletos del cine siempre que puedas. (Pay for dinner or for the tickets to the movie whenever you can.)
Every couple will obviously reach its own agreements, but towards the beginning, most Mexican women expect you to pay for dinner, for the tickets to the movie, or for whatever activity you guys are doing together.
- Ábrele la puerta. (Open the door for her.)
No importa qué puerta sea (it doesn’t matter which door it is), the point is that you open it for her, either before she gets off the car (or the Uber), before she goes into the restaurant, before she enters her house or your apartment.
Secret 2: Details are key
Las mujeres mexicanas adoramos los detalles… y las sorpresas. (Mexican women love details… and surprises.) You should not wait until Christmas or Valentine’s Day to send us flowers.
Similarly, no esperes a nuestro cumpleaños para llevarnos serenata (Don’t wait until our birthday to deliver a serenata.)
Secret 3: Decoding implicit meanings
Sometimes, Mexican women mean “yes” when they say “no” and vice versa. This is especially true when they are upset.
Si notas que está molesta (if you feel like she’s upset) and ask, ¿estás enojada? (are you angry?). Chances are she’ll respond “no”… and then she’ll turn away or barely talk to you. In other words, she’ll show you that she is, indeed, upset.
Similarly, she might mention something like: “el novio de mi amiga le mandó flores al trabajo” (my friend got flowers from her boyfriend at work). In this case, she’s not only telling you something that happened, she’s also implicitly asking you to send her flowers as well.
No te preocupes (don’t worry!), you’ll master the art of decoding implicit meanings, especially in terms of time… You’ll notice that most Mexican women take quite long in getting ready. So, if you have booked a restaurant at 8, you better tell her the reservation is at 7.
Secret 4: Showing emotions
En México, la gente es apasionada. (Mexican people are passionate.) Therefore, your Mexican sweetie will show her emotions constantly: te va a dar besos, a abrazar y a acariciar (she will kiss you, hug you, and caress you) even in public.
More importantly, she will expect some feedback or response. So, kiss her back, hug her and caress her as well. If you don’t, you might send her the wrong message.
Secret 5: Taboos
La religión siempre ha tenido mucha importancia en México. (Religion has always been a huge thing in Mexico.) Therefore, sex and all that’s related to it are still, in most cases, un tabú (a taboo).
Consequently, if your Mexican girlfriend is still living with her parents, don’t expect to sleep in the same room with her. That’s a no go… por lo menos en la mayoría de las familias (in most families at least). Things are gradually changing, but in general, that’s how they work.
Similarly, if you have planned a trip together, don’t be surprised if your girlfriend lies to her parents about who she’s going with on that trip.
Secret 6: Meeting your in-laws
La familia es importante en México. (Family is very important in Mexico.) Therefore, her family will be around a lot.
In some cases, sobre todo en provincia (especially in cities other than the capital city), you might have to ask for permission from the girl’s parents to date her OR they might make comments about you or the relationship itself.
Your in-laws will either love you or hate you. Su papá quizás te odie de por vida (her dad might hate you for life), but once you have gained their trust, they will be very nice to you.
Algunas suegras (some mothers-in-law) tend to show their love to their daughter’s partner by serving them more food… even though they might be stuffed already. So, be prepared to gain some weight!
Secret 7: Food
Speaking of food, te darás cuenta (you will realize) that your Mexican darling will be frequently indecisive as to which restaurant to visit or what to have for breakfast, lunch, or dinner.
You will probably find yourself giving her a lot of options. In most cases, she will say, “lo que tú quieras” (whatever you want) or “tú escoge” (you choose). Be careful, though!
This secret is somewhat related to secret number 3 (Decoding implicit meanings) because you basically have to learn her likes and dislikes. When she says, lo que tú quieras or tú escoge, she probably means “let’s go to my favorite restaurant” or “let’s order my favorite dish”.
And these dishes can be quite weird. Want to find out what kind of weird food Mexicans eat? Check out Paulisimas piece about 5 popular and weird Mexican dishes.
In addition to that, tu chica mexicana probará tu comida (your Mexican girl will try your food). Before you know it, her fork will be meddling in your plate.
Secret 8: Be faithful
When Mexican women start a relationship, se comprometen (they commit to it) and they expect you to do so as well.
Si no quieres romperle el corazón (if you don’t want to break her heart), refrain from talking to your ex and be careful with other girl friends.
Mexican women tend to be territorial and jealous. Para evitar el drama (to avoid drama), just be honest with her.
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Alright! Espero que esta información te sea útil (I hope this information is useful).
If you are already dating a Mexican woman, tell me in the comments below if I missed anything. If you are thinking about dating a Mexican woman, which secret did you find more interesting… or frightening… or challenging?
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