Say This to Flirt successfully in Spanish! (Part 2)

Say This to Flirt successfully in Spanish! (Part 2)

Finding love is one the main reasons people want to learn Spanish. Si ese es tu caso, puedes empezar con aprender a coquetear. (If that is your case, you can start by learning how to flirt.)

Soy Paulísima de Spring Spanish. (I’m Paulisima from Spring Spanish.) I’ve already given you some tips in this popular video. Pero hoy vas a aprender mucho más. (But today you’ll learn even more.)

1. Recuerda ser amable (Remember to be polite)

En México, y en general en Latinoamérica, la gente es muy amable. (In Mexico, and in Latin America in general, people are very kind.) So whatever you try, first greet. And if you’re kind of intruding, acknowledge it.

If you’re approaching someone who you don’t know, you could say: (The formal version:)

Disculpe por interrumpirlo. Solo quería decirle que es muy guapo.
(I’m sorry for intruding. I just wanted to tell you that you’re very handsome.)

Disculpa por interrumpirte. Solo quería decirte que eres muy guapa.
(I’m sorry for intruding. I just wanted to tell you that you’re very beautiful.)

This last one is a little less formal, because it’s directed to the person not usted. Since you’re greeting and apologizing for intruding, it won’t be taken as “informal”. Learn everything about the proper use of TÚ, USTED and even VOS in this, video.

Disculpa por interrumpirte. Solo quería decirte que eres una persona muy atractiva.
(I’m sorry for intruding. I just wanted to tell you that you’re a very attractive person.)

Esta frase  tiene la ventaja de que es de género neutral, así que la puedes usar para hombres, mujeres y gente no binaria. (This phrase also has the advantage of being gender neutral, so that you can use it for men, women, and non-binary people.)

Disculpa por interrumpirte. Solo quería decirte que eres muy guapo / guapa.
(I’m sorry for intruding. I just wanted to tell you that you’re very handsome / beautiful.)

Muchas gracias.
(Thank you very much.)

¿Te molesto si hablamos un poquito?
(Do I bother you if we talk for a little bit?)

Ah… es que estoy esperando a mis amigas.
(Oh… it’s just that I’m waiting for my girlfriends.)

Ok, mira, te dejo mi Instagram por si quieres mandarme mensaje después. Me llamo Ariel. Soy de Nueva Zelanda. Estoy aquí de vacaciones.
(Alright, look, I’ll give you my Instagram in case you want to send me a message later. My name is Ariel. I’m from New Zealand. I’m here for vacation.)

Antes de continuar. (Before we continue.) Two things: If you haven’t subscribed to the channel, this is the right time to do it.

Y la segunda cosa (And the second thing), Maura and I made this fun video where we pretend we’re on a first date. Véanlo aquí. (Watch it here.)

2. Frases agradables que decirle a alguien (Nice phrases to tell someone)

Traigan papel y algo para anotar porque las siguientes frases son excelentes para coquetear. (Bring paper and something to write because the next phrases are excellent for flirting.) And they work for everyone, so you don’t have to waste time adjusting them for female or male.

  • Me encanta verte. (I love looking at you.)
  • Tienes un cara muy bonita. (You have a very pretty face.)
  • Me encanta todo lo que haces. (I love everything you do.)

¡Guau! Me encanta verte.
(Wow! I love looking at you.)

¿Sí? ¿Por?
(Yes? Why?)

Porque tienes una cara muy bonita.
(Because you have a very pretty face.)

¡Guau! Me encanta verte.
(Wow! I love looking at you.)

¿Sí? ¿Por?
(Yes? Why?)

Porque me encanta todo lo que haces.
(Because I love everything you do.)

  • Eres una persona maravillosa. (You’re a wonderful person.)
  • Eres una persona muy agradable. (You’re a very nice person.)
  • Eres una persona muy atractiva. (You’re a very attractive person.)
  • Eres una persona muy interesante. (You’re a very interesting person.)
  • Eres una persona fascinante. (You’re a fascinating person.)

In these adding “una persona” has the effect of making it sound a bit more deep. Realmente no sé por qué. (I really don’t know why.) But it just sounds… more special.

Me gustaría conocerte más. (I’d like to get to know you more.)

3. Hablando sobre lo que nos gusta y lo que no nos gusta (Talking about likes & dislikes)

If you want to ask that person out, you could first learn about their likes and dislikes. And give them time to think by providing them with your answer first.

¿Qué te gusta hacer? A mí, por ejemplo, me gustan mucho las terrazas para tomar algo y disfrutar de la vista. Me gusta ir a museos y a exposiciones de arte. Casi no me gustan las discotecas.
(What do you like to do? Me, for example, I like to go out and have something to drink on a terrace, enjoy the view. I like to go to museums and to art exhibitions. I don’t really like night-clubs.)

A mí tampoco me gustan los antros y a mi también me gustan mucho las terrazas. También me gusta mucho ir al bosque y hacer picnics.
(I don’t like clubs either and I also like terraces a lot. I also like a lot to go to the forest and have picnics.)

Important note: (Nota importante:) The word “discoteca” in Mexico is old-fashioned, but everyone understands it. Millennials and younger generations call them “antros”. But in other parts of the Spanish-speaking world, they use different words, like “boliche” in Argentina. Let me know in the comments what other words have you heard in Spanish to refer to a club.

Me gustaría invitarte a hacer algo. ¿Qué te gusta hacer?
(I would love to invite you to do something. What do you like to do?)

¿¡Ah sí!? ¿Te gustaría invitarme a hacer algo? Pues a mí me encanta ir de compras y al spa.
(Oh yes!? Do you want to invite me to do something? I love to go shopping and to the spa.)

4. Dale un halágo (Pay a compliment)

Me encanta (I love) is a great chunk to talk about your likes. You can also say me gusta, or ba . Use the following phrases to pay a nice compliment to that person you fancy:

Me encanta cómo hablas.
(I love how you speak.)

Me gusta tu forma de ser.
(I like your way of being.)

Me fascina tu estilo.
(I love your style.)

Me encanta tu personalidad.
(I love your personality.)

Me gusta cómo te expresas.
(I like the way you express yourself.)

Me fascina cómo eres.  
(I love how you are.)

5. No cometas estos errores (Don’t make these mistakes)

A common mistake that foreigners do when flirting in the Spanish-speaking world is that we’re not that forward so, we might take offense when someone is. Please don’t say: Eres muy caliente. First, it doesn’t mean you’re hot. Aprende por qué en este video. (Learn why in this video.)

And second, telling how sexy someone is, is not the best way to approach people. Por los menos no en México. (At least not in Mexico.)

Let’s say you’re lucky and the person you like speaks English. Please don’t say things like:

¡Guau! ¿Cómo es que hablas tan bien inglés?
(Wow! How is it that you speak English so well?)

¿Cómo es que tu inglés es tan bueno?
(How come your English is so good?)

I know you mean well, but it can be taken as condescending. You’re better off saying things like:

¡Qué bueno que hablas inglés tan bien! Así podemos hablar en dos idiomas.
(It’s so good you speak English so well! That way we can talk in 2 languages.)

¡Ojalá que mi español fuera tan bueno como tu inglés!
(I wish my Spanish was as good as your English!)

Eso suena muchísimo mejor. (That sounds so much better.)

Are you ready to flirt? With these tips, you’re all set for success. Now you’ll have to have a conversation. Watch the next lesson where Ania and I will teach you amazing conversation starters.

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